Friday, May 22, 2009

Joe Neff

Joe Neff was born on July 31, 1947 in Poteau, OK. He joined his parents, Bill & Virginia Neff in Heaven on May 14, 2009. Joe’s legacy of love, laughter, and life lessons will live forever in the hearts of his family, daughter Marie Pitchford & husband Eugene; daughter Shawna Martin & husband Donny; and son Jon Sloan & wife Carla. Grandchildren: Clint, Blake, Bryce, Brody, Wyatt, Dawson, & Sadie. The mother of his children, Shirley Nichols Neff. Siblings: Billy, Barbara, Tom, & Jerry. Numerous nieces, nephews, other relatives & loved ones, and so many friends it would be impossible to count them all. Joe loved the outdoors. On Sundays, he could often be found driving his jeep in the mountains. He had a deep appreciation for the natural landscape that could only be found off the beaten path. Joe took every opportunity to enjoy the scenery on horseback. Joe was a man of many talents. Over his lifetime, he was a member of the National Guard, a home builder, an ironworker, a business owner, and most of all, the best dad in the entire world. His greatest occupation was his ability to see the good in everyone and instill in others the desire to be a better person. Life will never be the same without Joe but, but if you were fortunate enough to know him your life had already been changed. Funeral services for Joe will be held at 2:00 pm Tuesday, May 26, 2009 at Springhill Baptist Church in Monroe with internment following the services at Oakland Cemetery in Poteau, OK. Pallbearers will be Tom Neff, Jerry Neff, Wesley Neff, John Newell, Scott Griffis, & Steve Jenkins. Honorary pallbearers will be Jon Sloan, Jay Hill, Duane Donaho, Mel Ross, Bryon Kinsey, Jimmy Meisenheimer, Coopy White, Stan Jenkins, Frank Nichols, Sr. & Lucky Graham. If preferable to flowers, memorial contributions may be made in Joe’s name to the Oklahoma Violent Crime Victim’s Fund.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

God Bless You, Joe. May all of us find peace through your memory.

Anonymous said...

There are no words that anyone can say at a time like this except that I am truly sorry about the loss of of Joe.He was a man that if you ever met him you would never forget I am just thankful that I knew the man he was I remember every time I went to the bar by myself or with a crowd he would say "you are so beautiful you really brighten up the place you need to come more often" he was the most genuine person I have ever had the pleasure of knowing and I will miss him.
Pat Brown (Bradley)

Anonymous said...

Joe's welcoming smile and encouraging words will be missed by all. I am thankful to have known such a warm and wonderful person. May he rest in peace knowing how many lives he has touched.

Anonymous said...

Uncle Joe as each day passes
We sit and wonder why?
Why you were taken
Without a chance to say goodbye
And as we start thinking
With tears running down our cheeks
We think of life without you and it really makes us weep

We think of the future
And nothing seems that bright
Nothing is the same without you by our sides
All we have is our memories and a hole inside our hearts
We know how much we loved you from the start

We look at the places where you used to be all around us
Now all we have is your grave to look at instead
We long for you and for you to
Tell us everything's going be ok
We just want so much for this pain to go away

Love From
Mrs. Kaye Kinsey

Anonymous said...

Joe you will be greatly missed by so many. I'm glad that i got to know you and thank you for being there when i needed you. Gone but not forgotten.

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful soul you are! You always treated everyone like they were something special.You truely were a one in a million!You touched so many people just by being yourself!This world will always have a black spot in it b/c of OUR loss of YOU..so senseless.. not fair and no way justified.. There will never be another man as respected,missed and loved as you Joe ... what a beautiful soul you are!

To your family just know WE all feel your loss and wish you all the strength in the world to make it thru this difficult time.God bless you all and just know there are MANY in this area that care and want to help if possible.

DERA said...

THE LONGBRANCH WAS THE FIRST BAR I EVER WENT TO, THE FIRST PLACE I EVER SANG KARAOKE, AND THE PLACE I LEARNED TO 2~STEP THANKS TO JOE, HE WAS A GREAT TEACHER BUT HE ALWAYS GOT ON TO ME BECAUSE I ALWAYS TRIED TO TAKE LEAD..."NOW DARLIN YOUR THE LADY AND IM THE MAN..JUST LET ME LEAD" ILL ALWAYS REMEMBER THOSE WORDS! JOE TOOK CARE OF ME FROM THE TIME I WALKED THROUGH THAT DOOR TILL THE TIME I PULLED OUT OF THAT PARKING LOT, JUST LIKE HE DID FOR MANY MANY OTHERS! HE WAS ONE OF THE MOST CARING, NON JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE I HAVE EVER MET, THE WORLD COULD USE A LOT MORE "JOES"!! HE ALSO SHARES A BIRTHDAY WITH MY COUSIN AND MY DAUGHTER...I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU JOE...FLY HIGH!!! MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY!

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry you were taken from your family. You were a good man and will truly be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with your family, may they find some peace in knowing you will be reunited in heaven one day.....

Anonymous said...

We all loved Joe as a friend & he will truly be missed by a lot of us. No words can be said that takes away any of the pain or loss of Joe.
He was known as pretty eyes for many years & I was glad to be a friend of his.
May God bless his family & they are in our thoughts & prayers.
We love & miss you Joe!

RHONDA said...

I WILL NEVER FORGET THE SUMMERS I SPENT WITH SHIRLEY AND JOE. tHEY WERE THE BEST SUMMERS OF MY LIFE.I HAVE KNOWN SHIRLEY AND JOE AND MARIE AND SHAWNA ALL MY LIFE.THEY ARE MY FAMILY. I LIVE IN TULSA AND WHEN SCHOOL WAS OUT FOR THE SUMMER I WOULD HEAD FOR POTEAU. I LOVED THAT FAMILY DEARLY. THE DAY I FOUND OUT THAT JOE HAD BEEN KILLED WAS ONE OF THE SADDEST DAYS OF MY LIFE. JOE WAS A GOOD MAN AS WE ALL KNOW, ANYTIME I NEEDED JOE HE WAS ALWAYS THERE. JOE TAUGHT ME ALOT OF THINGS. WHEN NO ONE ELSE WOULD JOE TOOK ME OUT TO THE BACK ROADS AND TOUGHT ME HOW TO DRIVE. I LOVE HIS GIRLS MARIE AND SHAWNA THEY HOLD A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY HEART.
jOE, I MISS DAILY HE WAS IMPORTANT TO ME. I LOVE HIM AND MISS HIM VERY MUCH. RHONDA CULPEPPER

Ailaine Marie Neff said...

This is late in coming, but I did not know of Uncle Joe's passing, as I am his brother, Billy's daughter, I never got to know Billy/Bill,or Uncle Joe very well, but had a couple of visits in Poteau in the 80's. Both visits, I got to see Uncle Joe, who truly was/IS one of the kindest men I have encountered to date. I remember (I was 18 @ the time) he took me horseback riding, just me and him. He had a quiet STRENGTH about him. He did not flaunt his wisdom. He knew I really wanted to get to know my dad,and after riding horses awhile, asked if I wanted him to find my dad for me, which was Irony at it's best, because at the age of 7, I found my dad myself when child support, and police could not.I said yes, I would like to see my dad. He arranged it. He was so kind- and SO FUNNY. I did not know him well, but I absolutely remember his kindness, his "smiling eyes", and he was certainly handsome. I remember his daughter, Marie, who I adored, although we spent little time together. She was a doll. My middle name is Marie too. My b-day is in January, and if I remember correctly, Marie's b-day is in January. She had her daddy's eyes, and smile. I do hate Uncle Joe was Stolen. And I do hope the moderator gets this to Marie. I will look her up tomorrow to see if I can help find the monster who stole her daddy. God Bless Their family. ( I learned of Joe's death when I googled my name just to see what came up)